What they mean when they say that "they are not ready"

 I saw a post dissing people that said they were "not ready" to be in relationships. This is what I think about it.

I.

Even the best ones amongst us are cowards sometimes, and instead of saying, "I don't feel the same way about you" they make up some other excuse to get you out of the way.
"I'm NoT rEaDy foR a RelAtionshIP" is one of those.
However, for the first sentence, the keyword is "sometimes".

II

I don't know if I am triggered because it is something I would tell another person and if my thoughts are biased to refute the subject matter and feel justified.

III

I think it is an unselfish thing to let someone else know that you are not ready to be in a relationship.
It hurts when you are at the receiving end, but don't you think you deserve to be with a person that is willing and ready to be with you?

IV

I learned something about "willingness to buy" and "purchasing power", and I think that just maybe it could apply in this context as well.

"I want you with all of my heart but as much as I want you, I am incapable of being a partner to you right now."

V

Sometimes, love finds us at the wrong times.
It is okay to shoo it away until you are capable of handling it.  Love is a flame.
Flames are destructive in incapable hands.

VI

I saw a tweet one time too. That behind every "I am not ready to be in a relationship" there was a secret "...just not with you".  I do not agree.
Sometimes there is a secret, "...because I have yet to heal from xyz and I wouldn't want to bleed on you" or "...because I don't feel ready for the responsibility that comes with it" or "...because I have yet to get over an ex" or "...because I have suffered through many forms of abandonment and I have yet to trust you enough to know that you won't leave" or "because I have character flaws that I'd like to fix up first so that we don't ruin a beautiful thing"...or "...because I am grossly insecure and on most days I don't even like myself, how can I believe that you want to be with me?"...and so and so.

VII

Maybe they don't have reasons that appear valid enough, but whatever it is, the problem is not you.

VIII

The problem is not them either.

IX

Or maybe not, but whichever way, you deserve a person willing and able to be with you.

IX(b)

While they are not deserving of you right now, what about later? What if what they need is time?

X
The world does not revolve around you.
As much as you love them, love yourself enough to know that their choices while they evolve and go through their life journeys have nothing to do with you. Let them go, you are deserving of a love that is willing and ready to stay.

XI
...and even if they lied that they weren't ready, when they were, and it just wasn't you that they wanted, then they weren't for you. Shouldn't you be grateful that they lied to save you from an arrangement that you'll both regret eventually?

XII
Don't keep a grudge because they said they weren't ready. There is no soft way to say these things.

XIII
Now that they said they are not ready, what do you plan to do? Do you love them enough to wait or is letting them go the greater love sacrifice? How long do you wait for in the name of love and when do you become a fool for it?
Do you understand what I am asking?

XIV
...and you that is not ready, do you plan to not be ready forever? What would it take for you to be ready? When you are ready, how would you know?

XV
I think I am writing more to myself than to anyone else.

XVI
Love is beautiful. I hope that you meet people that you will be willing to change your mind for—people that you cannot imagine life without and allow yourself to fall for wholesomely.

XVII
I use the word "wholesomely" a lot. I think it is a bit ironic.

XVIII
I cannot define readiness for you, but I hope that it is something worthwhile you choose to put love on hold for. I hope the delayed gratification is worth it.

XIX
No pressure. Love alone is not enough. Don't pretend that you are ready if you are not. Take your time. Undercooked love will hurt their stomach. Get yourself ready and do it right.

XX
I think about it a lot—the hack for knowing when you are ready. I don't know a lot of things. I am doing this life thing for the first time <or maybe not, do you think we are all reincarnations? Like our souls are being recycled?> and for a person with a non-existent love life, I think this is quite a bold post, so take my advice at your own risk.
*inserts hideous laughter*